How To Break a (Really) Bad Habit
Are you at your wits end because you or a loved one cannot seem to break a bad habit or addiction? I am here to tell you that there is hope. You can break any habit, develop new ones, and turn your life around! I know, because I’ve done it myself.
I have had some of the worst addictions ever. I know what it is like to try to quit. And I know what it is like to keep falling flat on my face. And the good news is that I know what it is like to finally make progress and break free.
When I say bad habit or addiction, I’m not talking about little bad habits like nail-biting. I’m talking about serious stuff. Like smoking crack or binge drinking. Or choosing to be in relationships that are harmful to your mental or physical health. Or how about gambling away all your money again and again, and feeling like crap about yourself because you can’t seem to stop? Or here’s one a lot of people fall prey to: trying to make everyone else happy all the time…but making yourself miserable in the process.
These are the kind of bad habits I’m talking about. Ones that that you must break if you want to be have the life that you truly deserve.
So, let’s get right to it – I want to share with you three ways you can begin to crush those habits once and for all.
Hope: The Ultimate Weapon
The most effective weapon in your arsenal is hope. What do I mean by hope? I’m not talking about making wishes, like “I hope I win the lotto.” What I’m talking about is a strong conviction that there will be light at the end of the tunnel. I am talking about a solid belief that somehow, things are going to be alright. You might now know how it will happen, but inside you just know that it will.
If you have hope, you will keep getting up when you fall because you believe that one of these times, you will have a breakthrough. And I’m telling you, if you believe it, it will happen!
Hope is essential, because without it, we all are doomed. But with hope, anything is possible!
I don’t know how long it will take you to have your breakthrough. It may be in an hour. Or maybe longer. But one thing I do know – if you don’t lose hope, you will have that breakthrough. So, you must cultivate and strengthen your hope.
So how do you do that? By reading positive articles like these. By listening to motivation and inspirational messages by others who have been successful. By surrounding yourself with people who are positive and believe in you. And by subscribing to my newsletter – just use the big red button at the end of this article!
This may sound crazy, but it is the truth: Right now it may be more important to build your hope and faith than it is to put all your energy on quitting whatever it is that challenges you. If you have hope, you may have lost some battles, but I guarantee you will win the war!
Raising Self Esteem Will Help Break Habits
Does someone who truly cares about themselves choose to ruin their own life? Of course not. Instead, they make decisions that are good for them and healthy. They may make mistakes, but they learn from them because they love themselves too much to continue harming themselves.
If you can’t seem to stop hurting yourself, I’m going to be honest with you: you have an issue. And most likely, the issue is much deeper than the habit you want to break.
The fact is, self-esteem is huge when it comes to having a quality life. When you have healthy self-esteem, you stick up for yourself. You don’t settle for whatever comes your way. And when it comes to bad habits, well that can happen with anyone. But if you have healthy self-esteem, you find a way to quit and you move on.
With poor self-esteem there is something broken inside. You don’t have the resolve to do what is good for you because on a deep level, you’re not sure you deserve it.
But there’s good news. You can improve your self-esteem. You can take steps to strengthen it and change the way you view yourself on a deep level.
You can begin by telling yourself the truth about yourself. And the truth is that you are a good person. That you deserve to have a good life and you have every right to experience happiness.
It may sound corny, but you need to tell yourself the truth daily, like this: Look in the mirror daily and tell yourself, “I am a good person. I am kind. I am loving. I am strong. I deserve the best, and today I choose to give it to myself.” I did this for a long time – and it worked.
If you do this regularly, it will sink deep inside of you. With practice, you will see the results. You will change your self-esteem. And that, in turn, will help you change your life.
Finding Your Purpose Takes Power Away from Addictions and Bad Habits
Each one of us has a purpose. We all have something special to offer. Something valuable that we are uniquely qualified to contribute to the world in a way that no one else can. And discovering what that is and carrying it out is the only way to make you truly happy.
If you haven’t answered the basic question of who you are and why are you here, then you must. You owe it to yourself. It is not enough to know that you want to break some habit or addiction to avoid the pain it causes. Because once you’ve broken it, you will then have to answer the question: Now what?
Take some time to imagine the life you want and the positive things you see yourself doing in a year or two. Picture yourself happy and blessed – and focus on that image. Can you see it? What you see is what you will become. Take time to focus on this each day. It will help you develop a sense of what you must run toward, not what you are trying to run from. This will take you farther than you can ever imagine.
I know my purpose. It is to help others see that they have greatness in them. That they are good, and that they can do great things. That they can move from being needy to having an abundance to give. I know that my own experience uniquely qualifies me to bring this message. There is no one else that can bring it the way I can. Knowing this, life takes on a new meaning and purpose.
You have a unique purpose as well. If you don’t know what it is, you must find it. Once you do, the things that have held you back will start to crumble. Your addictions will begin to wither. You will start taking action that will lead to freedom. Old habits and addictions will lose ground to the new you that emerges as you begin pursuing your purpose.
Focusing on these three points will lead you to the answers that are right for you. They will lead you to freedom. Building your hope, cultivating self-worth, and discovering your purpose will start a process that will take you farther than any ‘formula’ for breaking a habit.
Positive thoughts your way! I believe in you – you have greatness in you!
Don Cummins is an author, speaker and coach, spreading the idea that regardless of where anyone has been, absolutely anyone can recover their lives – and build one beyond their wildest dreams.